People don’t seem to like love, they like the lovey-dovey feeling. People don’t love love – love is sacrificial, love is intense. People don’t love love. They like the idea of love. People want the emotion, without paying anything for it.*
The truth is that the more intimately you know someone, the more clearly you’ll see their flaws. That’s just the way it is. You might think you love someone, until you see the way they act when money is tight or pressure is high. Love is choosing to serve someone and be with someone in spite of their flaws. Love is patient; love is kind; love is deliberate. Love is hard. Love is pain and sacrifice, it’s acknowledging the bad, yet seeing the good in another person and defying the impulse to jump ship.
Love is a plan to love each other, for better and worse, for richer and poorer, in sickness and in health. Love is a choice, a deliberate choice!** It’s choosing to love someone, even if they don’t love you in return.
Love isn’t based on feelings. Your feelings are constantly changing! Love is a promise, a commitment. It can’t depend on your emotions because they go up and down. Love is choosing to keep your relationship on solid ground, through the good and the bad days. No matter what kind of temptation or obstacle that stands in your way, you choose to keep your relationship from falling apart. You choose, commit and devote yourself to make it work. ***
*Matt Chandler, **Seth Adam Smith, ***Carol Guajardo